Ok so it turns out that having a tiny wriggly little velcro newborn makes it difficult to sit down and write up a piece that has reasonable depth and grammar… so in the words of Miranda, bear with… Our labour story begins on Tuesday 15th August, a whole two days before Raven made her entrance. … Continue reading The Wolfe & The Raven: Our Little Bird Is Born
A few weeks ago I was confronted by a Facebook post that questioned why parents of stillborn babies would share photographs of their deceased children on social platforms. The status was rather brutal and flippant with little regard for the impact it would have on the several people in their friends list who had suffered … Continue reading A Winters Tale – Why I choose to openly share my sons story and photographs
The word ‘Buddhism’ conjours up many images and feelings in our mind. In this modern world we often associate it with orange robed monks sat in Tibetan caves, heads shaved, feet bare, sat in deep meditation. We can picture giant Buddhist temples in the far flung lands of Thailand and China. Its feels like a floaty … Continue reading More dharma, less drama; A brief intro to Buddhism
I had originally planned to wait until further into my Pregnancy After Loss (PAL) journey before I shared my experience, however this week has been PAL Awareness week and ends today with the prompt ‘What Do You Want People To Know About Pregnancy After Loss?’ and so I thought, ok I’m going to take the plunge … Continue reading What I Want People To Know About Pregnancy After Loss
Ten months into this baby loss business, and I am suddenly struck by the shift in attitude to my grief. What was once an outpouring of support and “you’re doing so well’s” has hardened into confusion and murmurs of “perhaps you should get some pills”. But what I am experiencing seems to be shared by others grieving … Continue reading Good Grief
As my breastfeeding journey reaches its 18th month, I find myself reflecting on my time nursing. From those earlier days of confusion and struggle, to the realisation that I didn’t want to wean, and into the transition of nursing a toddler. So here I share my personal ten things I wish I had known earlier … Continue reading Ten things I wish I had known about breastfeeding.
These last few days I have felt quite low. It’s frightening to say that sometimes, because whilst I’m now familiar with the rise and fall of grief, this can sometimes translate to others as ‘I can’t cope’ or ‘I’m depressed’. Maybe some well intending but misled friends read it as ‘I’m spiralling into despair’ and … Continue reading Grief, continued.
S L E E P It is an obsession and hot topic that arrives part and parcel with a freshly born human. From both ourselves, and from those around us. It begins the very moment they are born, when we take home our fruitful bundle with absolutely no idea what we are actually doing, when the … Continue reading Sleeping Soundly
Motherhood. The experience that nothing can ever truly prepare you for, the most unprecedented upheavel a of a life beforehand and the most wonderful interruption of an easy life. Before we had Raven I was, of course, already a mother, but there is no doubting that my mothering experience with a living baby is far different … Continue reading The Beginnings of Motherhood
Since Winter died I have trudged daily through grief, I miss him endlessly and it hurts. To help me survive the mass of emotions and pain, I have taken many rich elements of Buddhist teachings and put them into practice. One of these practices has been acknowledging my perspective and looking at ways I can alter … Continue reading A Matter of Perspective